Finding a suitable partner can prove to be quite a difficult task, but society and even genetics are ever pressuring us to keep looking, because being alone is not a good option. Our instincts keep telling us that we should have children, in order to perpetuate the species and society is going out of its way to make single life appear as a lonesome undesirable lifestyle choice.
Mass media has been educating us since childhood that the princess is only happy when she finds her prince through all of those romantic comedies and pretty much every pop song ever made, so no wonder most people feel that being alone is this sad gloomy version of a life.
While single life can truly be like that for some people, regardless of the role that mass media has played in this, there are quite a few people who have quite a different take on things. For them, single life is not only acceptable, but a lifestyle choice that actually make them happy and it’s all due to how they perceive relationships and people.
This is what a recent study revealed, thus disproving all the depressive theories that people have in regards to being single. The study was based on a massive survey that included 4,000 participants from New Zealand, with ages from 18 all the way to 94.
“Those who fear being single may prioritize relationship status above relationship quality, settling for less responsive and less attractive partners and remaining in relationships that are less satisfying.” concludes the study.
Therefore, not all people are happier when they are in a relationship. And furthermore, people who tend to go out of their way to avoid fighting with their significant other might feel the same amount of anxiety when they are single, so they are clearly not going to be less happy or sad.
On the other hand, people who tend to get their way and put their own interests first seem to actually be happier in relationships than when they are on their own.
However, the most interesting fact that the authors noticed in their subjects was that people were happiest when they felt that they had made the right choice, either by staying single or choosing their current partner.
Therefore, the best course of action is to take it all with a grain of salt, because like everything else in life,things are not entirely black and white. Being single is not the horror story depicted by mass media and being a relationship is not the happily ever after that we have all imagined for our favorite fairy tale heroes.
By getting to know ourselves and by being honest about what truly makes us happy, we can have better tomorrow, either single or alongside the right partner in crime.
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